Taipei Family Adventures

Friday, December 31, 2004

Our Personal Experience of the Tsunami

Our original vacation plans were Dec 20th - 25th, but we were enjoying Thailand so much we extended our stay until the 27th. We were staying at a resort called The Merlin Beach Resort in Phuket, Thailand. This resort is located south of Patong Beach and the only accessible road to it is through the Patong Beach area. Merlin beach sits on a piece of land that "juts" out from the main island of Thailand - so it's surrounded on two sides by ocean. The side near the pools is beach front and then the front side of resort is a "forest" where another beach lies. Anthony is guessing that it's about 1km from one beach to the other, with the resort being about 2/3 of the way away from the forested side and 1/3 from the beach front side.

We had just finished making our Merry Christmas phone calls back home on the morning of December 26, 2004 (14 hours ahead of most of our family, so still Christmas night for them), while we were at our resort. It was about 3 minutes to 10 am and we wanted to catch a resort bus to the town of Phuket to do some shopping. We had a backpack carrier for Liz, a small cloth bag with sunscreen and a shoulder bag with 3 diapers, some money, wipes, etc., and Anthony had his wallet with his ID and one credit card in it. We started walking down the slope of the resort driveway to catch the bus when we heard people yelling and pointing across this “forest”, and saying RUN, RUN, RUN. I turned to look and saw this mass of water rushing towards us – it wasn’t a wave, it was just a mass of water flooding the forest and coming towards us with extreme speed. I had Liz, Anthony had our stuff and Ashley was about 10 feet away. I screamed her name, and Anthony scooped her up and ran with her up to the lobby. We ran across the lobby area to the staircase on the side were our room was located and just ran up all the stairs, telling everyone around us to go UP and RUN. We got up to the 4th floor and looked towards the pool area, which was getting flooded with water. It hadn't even registered what had happened, what was happening, we had no idea. From the 4th floor, we watched the water come in from the beach area and engulf the swimming pool area, along with the rooms on the 1st floor (which is where our room was located). Anthony said he remembers getting to third floor, looking down and yelling "It's still coming, keep going!” Once we got to the fourth floor, we just held the girls and prayed that it would stop coming up and then we looked out over the pool area, I was looking for people that may need help, people that were at the pool or in the restaurant - I didn't see anybody.

My thought was first that we were going to die, that more waves were coming in and that the water would just get higher and higher. I hugged my girls and Anthony, told them how much I loved them and just prayed. After I realized that the water wasn't going to reach us, at least the initial wave, I was just so scared for those people that had been on the beach, in their 1st floor rooms or at the pool. I had no idea if people would have been able to survive that force of water.

People were banging on roof hatches, trying to get them open so they could climb out onto the roof, get to higher ground. We stayed on the fourth floor. There were several waves still coming in, but none as big as the first.

After about 15-20 minutes, I begun to walk around, looking at the damage, seeing cars piled up three high, smashed windows, trees scattered everywhere. I took a few pics, not many though as I was more worried about getting us and the girls to safety.
As soon as the first wave was done, Anthony went down to try and help people - see if anyone needed medical attention or help. He didn't find anyone and came back up to the 4th floor.

That was when I took pics of the forest side of the resort - the front side and the cars piled up. What I saw was complete devastation - people walking around dazed and confused, many people limping with cuts and bruising. The staff of the hotel were scared, had no idea what to do, what had happened. They were missing people too and trying to locate the staff and attempting to get information, but were pretty much cut off from any communication with the rest of the island.

Everyone was frightened, asking for information, when would another wave come, how to get out of there safely, where loved ones where. I remember one family next to us, they started crying saying their mother and father had been at the beach. After about 5 minutes, the mother came walking up to them, yelling "Franco, Franco" over and over again. Franco was her husband, the father. She said he was at the beach; she had no idea if he made it. She was crying, screaming his name. After about another 10 minutes, he came up - everyone was so relieved. They had some scrapes and bruises, but were alive.

A wonderful Australian couple invited us into their room on the 4th floor to help with the girls, try to keep them from seeing and hearing too much. We stayed with them for about an hour, occasionally venturing out, walking around, surveying damage, seeing what we could do to help. I was able to borrow their cell phone and leave a message with one of our family members, saying we were ok. It was the middle of the night in the States, but I knew that this devastation would be on the news by morning time and didn’t want any relatives to worry about our lives.

There were quite a few injured people that came struggling up after the main tsunami hit. There was a doctor going around checking wounds. He quickly ran out of medicine, so we gave him what we had - just a few tabs of ibuprofen and asked others to do the same.

I just kept looking out at the damage, watching the waves come in, praying that more wouldn't come, that it was over, thanking God that we were all safe and unhurt, thinking how lucky we were - had it been 5 minutes later, we would have been on bus, on road that got wiped out by wave, 5 minutes earlier, we would have been in our room and would have been crushed by objects and water forced through our room.

After about 1.5 hours, I was walking through the lobby, trying to find out what was going on - people were gathering their luggage and going to the lobby. Anthony went back to our room, kicked open the door and grabbed the one carry-on suitcase left and brought it back up to the 4th floor. I did not go back to the room, did not want to see that kind of devastation, didn't think I could handle it, and I refused to leave the girls without one of us for even one second.

When I was walking through the lobby, the staff was saying that another, larger wave was due to hit in 2 hours and we had to get out NOW and move to higher ground. We got the girls, and started walking across the debris littering the front of the resort and the road that used to be there. There were trees and seaweed and wood scattered everywhere. Both sides of the resort are surrounded by hills. We walked up the first hill towards town, with just the girls and the day stuff we had with us when we were going into town - a small shoulder bag with a few diapers, some money, etc. People were all taking their luggage with (if they were from 2nd - 4th floors). I was really amazed at this - all that disaster and people were taking their entire luggage with them, not just one bag with necessities, but everything they had brought with them. I really didn't (and still don't) understand that. Why not worry more about your family and your safety, take what little is important (passports, travel docs, one or two days of clothes, etc) and leave all the replaceable items?

At the top of the first hill, I asked around for extra clothes - I had a skirt on and it wasn't real good for walking or sitting down to rest in the shade. There were several people who offered us some clothes and I was able to get some shorts to wear plus some extra diapers for Liz since we had already used what we had back at the resort. We waited at one spot for about an hour, debating whether to continue on since the road dipped down again before going up. After a while, some staff members came and said we needed to keep moving. They had heard that a BIG wave was coming and we needed to get as high as possible (this later turned out to be another unsubstantiated rumor).

So, we kept walking, we walked for about another 1/2 hour, mostly uphill. Then we saw a roadside stand where a lady was selling fruit and water. Anthony went to buy some for the girls since they were hungry. The wave struck at 10 am and it was about 1 pm by this time.

As he was getting some food, a truck (covered with benches for passengers in the bed) came by and the driver saw me with the children. He offered to give us a lift up higher. There had been several trucks and motorcycles and cars driving through the area, picking up random people. There was really no order and many adults who were uninjured with luggage, took rides up the hill, instead of letting children and the injured go first. I was not happy to see this, I would much rather have seen the injured and the children being lifted to safety first. There were a few men who would stop trucks and try and get them to take the families with children, but usually they didn’t succeed.

We got in the back of the truck, and then some large man got in with his wife and SIX (yes, 6) pieces of luggage, taking up the entire rest of the space. Anthony and I were both flabbergasted, as there were children waiting right next to the truck to get on. Anthony told him to let the children come first and the guy said he doesn't see children, only himself. We were so mad and so upset at this side of human nature. At a time like this and there were people who only had eyes for themselves.
I forgot to add that when Anthony was buying food and water from roadside stand - the lady did not hike up prices, was charging reasonable amount for all food - helping any that needed it.

The truck took us up to a place called "Baan Nern Sai Resort" up in the hills, I call this place our sanctuary. It was a tiny motel with rooms surrounding an open little pool area and small restaurant/bar. They let everyone in, cooked us fried rice, gave us water, drinks, whatever we needed. They had no rooms available, but brought a crib out to the pool side for Elizabeth to sleep in. Up here, we were able to relax as much as possible and talk with others who were there. We met a wonderful family from Australia who let us borrow their cell phone. We immediately called our family, told them we were safe and uninjured, and tried to find a way out to a safe place in Phuket town.

Anthony called his mother and she answered - he explained the situation, asked her to contact the US Embassy since at that time we had no passports and no tickets and asked her to contact his work people to let them know what was happening, get our passport numbers and tell them that we were ok.

The family we borrowed the cell phone from was getting text messages on their phone from family and friends with news of what was happening, along with an oceanographer who was saying it was over, no more large tsunami waves were coming. That was never verified and rumors kept flying that more were coming.

The hotel had a generator and got electricity plus TV working, so we were able to watch CNN and find out what had occurred - an earthquake measuring 9.1 (8.9 was the word at the time) on Richter scale and large tsunami, with mass destruction everywhere. It was so awful. We were so lucky to be alive, to be uninjured, and to have our entire family together. It didn't matter that we'd lost physical belongings; besides, it made it so much easier to walk up that hill with no luggage.

There were a few seriously injured people at the hotel, and several people taking care of them. We ate fried rice, drank lots of water trying to keep hydrated and tried to keep abreast of the news. At one point, around 6pm, we got on a bus, that was going to take us to a place called Merlin Phuket in Phuket town (away from water), but after we went about 100 feet, the bus stopped, told everyone to get off, it wasn't safe to go on road because another wave was coming. There was fear and panic in everyone.
The staff at the Baan Nern Sai Resort were cooking for people and providing drinks. If you could pay, they were charging normal very reasonable prices and if you couldn't, that was ok, didn't matter. I highly commend that hotel! They gave us bread for the girls and milk.

At about 7pm, the Thai Navy showed up, along with staff from the Merlin Phuket hotel, and they started escorting people down into Phuket town. We waited until most of the people had been transported out. We were safe, and had no reason to rush getting out of the sanctuary we were at. Plus we were nervous, since any ground transportation that we took at that time would go past the beach. We were still very afraid of aftershocks and being caught near the beach. Typically, from what we knew, aftershocks of up to nearly the same amplitude of the original quake are quite possible within the first 24 hours. We were very tempted to stay the night by the pool with very limited food choices and comfort, but after checking news and talking to others eventually decided to go on.

About 8:30 pm, we boarded a bus and started down the road to Patong Beach. I was so nervous, my heart was racing, I just kept my eyes glued on the water, looking for any sign of a wave. The water was all the way up to the road, no beach left - full moon and moon was up, so tide was all the way in. It was utter devastation along Patong Beach - with cars, buses, trucks piled up, shops and stores wiped out. I just kept thinking how just the day before, we had spent the morning at that beach, letting the girls play in the sand and water, while we sat on the beach chairs and relaxed. One day earlier and we would have been there, would have been swept away. We turned right on a road away from Patong Beach and heard this awful scraping sound across the roof of the vehicle we were in - there were power and telephone lines hanging down, being held up by buses and cars that had been swept away by the tsunami.

They took us to a safe spot by the side of the road inland, then went back to pick up more people stranded about 100 meters up from the beach, trying to get as many people to safety as possible. Another bus came and took us to the Merlin Phuket hotel, which is in Phuket town, and we signed in, and were assigned a room with 2 other people - they were putting 6 people in one standard room and 15 people in a deluxe suite. They had taken top mattresses and laid them out in ballrooms for those who needed a place to stay - they were turning away no one. They supplied food - rice, fruit, water, tea and coffee - for any and all who were there. The lobby and hotel grounds were swamped with people. Everyone was trying to find missing people, trying to figure out how to get out, watching the TV’s set up everywhere, trying to call home – it was just utter chaos. We took the girls up to the room and got them down for bed. I went down to the lobby and called family.

We slept on twin boxsprings on the floor in the room, with Ashley sleeping on a pool mat I had grabbed and Liz in a crib we found in the housekeeping room on our floor. The girls were exhausted and fell alseep easily – they slept all night. I could not sleep - had so many images going through my head - mainly just the wave coming in. Any siren or yelling that I heard outside made my heart race and tears come to my eyes. I knew we were safe, there was no risk where we were, but emotionally I just couldn't conceive what had happened. I was able to call Anthony's parents, let them know where we were, they would let the Embassy know that we were safe along with all our other relatives.

The next morning, after breakfast, Anthony left on a bus returning to Merlin Beach Resort to see if he could get into the room safe and retrieve our passports (it had been broken and locked shut when he checked it immediately after tsunami). The girls were hard to take care of, they were both very cranky and upset that Daddy was gone. I was too. He left around 9:00 am and as of noon, he still wasn’t back. We went down to the lobby to walk around and to see if we could see him. Ashley wanted to wait outside for him, where the buses were coming and going, but with so many people there, it was hard to stay there with both girls. I decided going back to our room and waiting was the best option. I had to basically drag Ashley up to our room while she screamed “Daddy, Daddy” over and over again. It was so heartbreaking and I couldn’t handle it. I began to cry and for a few minutes Ashley held me on the bed and told me “it’s ok mommy”. I had no idea where Anthony was, if he was safe, how long he’d be gone, when we would get out of there. I then decided to go downstairs and go to a store to get diapers since we had run out. As we were in the elevator headed down, there was a woman in the elevator who obviously noted my distress. She asked where we were headed and I said we had to go to the store to get diapers and clothes for the girls. She said I could go with her to her room and take some diapers and clothes from them – they had a 2 year old little girl. So I went with her and she gave us some diapers, along with a pair of shorts and shirt for Ashley (who was wearing her underwear only by this time – her other clothes were so filthy). I talked with her and her husband for a few minutes, hearing their story, sharing ours and just having some much needed adult talk. Her husband had been to a resort near Merlin Beach Resort that morning to retrieve their belongings and he had only been back for a short time, so I was hopeful that Anthony would be back soon. We went back to the room and a few minutes later, as both girls were screaming, upset at the world, Anthony appeared. I don’t know if I have ever been so relieved in my life. He said that he’d been able to break into the safe and had found our passports and travel documents – soaked through, but still usable, at least for the time being. He also brought back some other items, the car seat, a backpack, our souvenirs (this is so odd – all the items we had purchased on our trip were untouched by the wave, they were on a top self in a closet far away from the patio area – the bottom of the bag was wet, but everything in the bag was fine – how’s that for irony?). We ended up trying to wash the backpack and carseat, but the stench was so bad, we left them at the hotel. Anthony said that there were bits of glass everywhere, so anything that had been in the water also had the possibility of having small shards of glass in it too. He said the room had been devastated. Barbecue grills from the restaurant were in the room, the beds had been twisted all around and were near the front door, the pack ‘n’ play was in the bathroom, the shower stall had moved, it was just a disaster zone. A hotel employee had helped him go through the room, mainly trying to find my eyeglasses, which they didn’t find, but the Merlin employee did find our Taipei apartment keys, which we hadn’t even thought of, and it wouldn’t have been easy getting new keys to our apartment when we arrived at 1 am.

Once Anthony got back, we then took a taxi to a shopping mall called “Central Festival”. We got Anthony some clothes, then me some clothes, then some toiletries and medicine, and then down to the basement to get the girls some clothes. As we were about to check out, people started running outside, saying “go, go, go!” They wouldn’t tell us what was going on, and it completely freaked me out (and Ashley too – “What’s happening, mommy? Is a wave coming?”). At first, we didn’t know what to do – we knew we were too far away from the beach for any sort of water to reach us, so we had no idea. Once we got outside, there was a rumor of an earthquake (why run outside?!) and Anthony feared there was a small chance it might be a bomb threat. We had no idea. After about 15 minutes of standing outside, Anthony went inside, bought the stuff we had picked out, returned the strollers we had borrowed and then came back outside to me and the girls who were waiting about 1 block away near a small building. Anthony was told that someone on 4th floor (top, restaurants) felt the building sway, thought it was an earthquake and panicked, which was a very contagious thing at this time in the country (likely still is) – that is the state of people over there, everyone is afraid of something else happening. And there isn’t really anyone to say “Everything is ok, nothing is going to happen.”

We then headed to City Hall, where all the embassies were set up, along with places for people to stay under shelter with food, water, phone lines and internet access. This was the saddest place we’d been too. There were thousands of people there, walking around, eating, drinking, looking dazed. We found where the US Embassy was set up (a room crammed with tables, people in line, and people sitting with make-shift signs saying what embassy they represented – U.S. guys had no one waiting to talk to them, but we had to break through another line to get to them), talked with the guys, who said that since we had our passports and our tickets, there was nothing they could do. They signed us in on a piece of paper, where they were recording all Americans that came by. Above our names were only two rows had been filled in, directly above our names a man had written his information, along with a statement about his wife and three daughters – all of whom were missing. Outside the building, there was a big bulletin board – on it, pictures of the dead and severely wounded, who needed to be identified. We sat down to eat some food and I spoke with a reporter from the New York Times. I don’t think we’ve been mentioned in any of his stories – there are just so many other stories of survival and hope that make for better news coverage – but it felt good to talk about our experience. As we were walking to get a taxi back to the hotel, we saw a poster, with a picture of a little boy in the hospital – and the words “Need to find my parents” – it was so awful, I started to cry. (This is the same boy that I’ve seen a recent news story on who has been reunited with his father – although his mother is still missing).

We got back to the hotel, called back to the states, asked for several things to be done, letting people know we were ok, try to get us back home, etc. The girls went to sleep very easy as they were exhausted. We tried to clean up the stuff Anthony had brought back, dried out our passports, etc. We decided we’d go to the airport the next morning and stay there all day if necessary to get out. Many people had left that day for the airport, but with the girls, we didn’t want to have to sleep at the airport overnight since we already had beds and were safe. My dad called us about 6am on the 28th, gave us a flight confirmation number they had been able to obtain on the 29th. This got us up and moving and we packed what little we had, ate some breakfast and headed for the airport. The airport was busy, but not as busy as I had anticipated it being. We were able to get on standby for the first flight out at 9:15 am and at 9:00 am, they called our name, checked our bag and we were on the plane! It was such a relief – knowing we were getting out. We flew to Bangkok while I read all the newspapers I could get my hands on, trying to get information on what was happening, why it had occurred, why no one had been warned (according to various news agencies, politics played a lot into why no one had been alerted about the risk). We landed in Bangkok, got off the plane and immediately, there was a US Embassy representative to see if any Americans needed assistance – a hotel, money, passports, etc. We already had everything we needed, so we did not need their assistance, but it sure felt good knowing that had we needed help, we would have gotten it immediately. The Bangkok airport was a zoo, people everywhere, a dozen or more embassy representatives for countries all over world holding up pieces of notebook paper with their countries names or little flags, TV stations and film crews, etc. We managed to arrange for a flight to Taipei around 3 pm that afternoon. We went to the Thai Air Executive Lounge, where they tried to say we couldn’t go in, but we explained that we’d been in Phuket, had two small children and needed a quieter place to sit. They then let us in. After eating a bit, I went to swing Liz by her arms (DO NOT EVER DO THIS WITH YOUR CHILDREN) and felt something click – she then started screaming and would not stop. We rushed her to the hospital clinic (where I basically had a breakdown and cried and cried and held onto her as tight as possible) and then they took us to a local Bangkok hospital, where they took X-Rays (holding your child down while he/she gets an X-ray and is clearly in pain has to be one of the top 2-3 bad experiences you can have and still have healthy children), popped her elbow joint back in (dislocated), gave her medicine and sent us on our way in about ½ an hour! Yes, ½ an hour – and this hospital was already full with people that had been airlifted in from Phuket. Can you imagine? And the cost – without any insurance – about $25 US dollars! Amazing. Liz was fine immediately after that, thank goodness, but we missed our flight. The next flight was around 6pm, so we made it back to Taipei around 11:30pm and back to our apartment around 1am. We called all our family, let them know we were home in Taipei, safe and sound and happy to be alive.

This experience is one I will never forget. Emotionally, it’s taking a toll on us all. It’s so hard to see all the devastation, to know that we were there, to think of all the possibilities, to wonder why? Yesterday I had the thought of what are we here for, why were we spared? What is our purpose on earth? I feel like we have been given such a great opportunity. I’m scared at little things. It’s hard to be away from Anthony – today was his first day back at work, just half a day. Angie came over and hung out, so I wasn’t alone. I think it’s going to be weird next week when he does go into work and I am alone with the girls. I’m jumpy and often just sit and stare. Not really thinking about anything, just trying to digest everything that has happened and we didn’t even see the worst.

Our story is so boring compared to many others. Yes, we saw it, yes, we survived, but there are so many other survival stories, reunited stories, etc - so many others affected greatly by this horrible tragedy. I just want others to know how horrible it is and that people over there need help - any donations they can give. So many orphans, so many lost homes, lost lives, lost jobs, complete devastation.

I feel like there is so much more to say - to try and get people to understand the devastation that has truly occurred there. I know you see it on the news, but it is just not the same as seeing it in real life. We didn't see the worst of it, we didn't see things that are unthinkable, but it still has had such an impact on all of us.

It happened halfway across the world from the US but will impact the entire world and they need our help. It’s pathetic what the US President is doing. He’s on vacation and can’t even give a statement in the aftermath – what an idiot. He’s just ruined any international relations he had with so many of these countries. Just because there weren’t thousands of American lives lost, there weren’t thousands of Americans injured, it’s of little mind to him? That is the impression that the rest of the world is seeing in this tragedy.

I am asking any and all of you, if you are able to spare any money, please donate what you can. The people of Thailand, India, etc… have lost so much, tourism will never be the same in those countries, dealing in the aftermath of this is going to be so difficult – people have lost entire families, entire villages, and their livelihood. Even $5.00, it may not seem a lot to you, but that $5 can add up to so much.

https://www.redcross.org/donate/donation-form.asp

Thursday, December 30, 2004

Dealing with the situation

We are attempting to deal with what has happened. Somepoint soon, I will post about our ordeal, from beginning to end, but you'll have to give me a few days. Although we were not actually physically injured, we did see the waves come in and did have to run for our lives, along with seeing mass damage and talking with others who were injured, had missing relatives, etc. I don't think this is too good for our psyches.

I wanted to let everyone know that we are handling it. The girls are doing good, Liz is wonderful and happy and helping us to smile. Ashley is nervous, easily scared and appears to possibly be having nightmares of some sort, However, she is still happy and playful during the day and wants to be with both mommy and daddy (and Claire, one of her friends :)

I am doing ok considering. Went to doctor today and have been prescribed an antianxiety medicine, a sleeping medicine and a stomach/GI medicine. Seems like a lot, huh?! Hoping it will help me calm down a bit and sleep some. Anthony is doing really good, although I don't really think he's allowed himself to think much about it. He's the strong one in the family.

We are in discussions about when we will be heading home (to the States). For sure, it will be soon, hopefully in a week or two.

I attempted to get new glasses today, but they said it would take about a week to get them in - so we are going this evening to another place to see if they can do it faster - sucks to have such a bad prescription!

Thanks to everyone for all your love, thoughts and prayers - they help! And it helps knowing how many people out there are thinking of us and wishing us well.

Tuesday, December 28, 2004

WE ARE SAFE AND UNHURT

For those who don't know, we were in Phuket, Thailand when this horrible disaster occurred. We are safe and unhurt and headed home. Currently, we are in the Bangkok airport, awaiting our flight home to Taiwan. Thanks to everyone who was thinking and praying for us and for anyone who helped facilitate our transportation home. It is a horrific situation and we are very fortunate, as there are so many who are not as fortunate as us. Please keep all the people affected by this disaster in your thoughts and prayers and if you can, check into donating anything you can - blood, money, clothes, etc.

Much love to all our family and friends! We will be in contact with everyone we can soon. And I will post more when I have more time and have processed through some of what has occurred.

Kimberly

Sunday, December 19, 2004

Almost Vacation Time

I am feeling much better, not quite as homesick as a few days ago, although that probably has some to do with the fact that we are leaving tomorrow morning for Thailand! We are almost done packing, although we still need to decide whether to take the soft backpack carrier or the hard one – the hard one is more comfortable with Liz, but bigger and bulkier. We’ve managed to only have two suitcases (one of which is a carry on size) along with a backpack and a small pack, plus the stroller, pack n play and carseat, oh and a big huge duffel bag with all the swimming stuff in it. I thought it wasn’t too much, but now that I write it all down, sure seems like a ton! Traveling with kids requires a lot of luggage. Will be easier when Liz is three and we don’t need a carseat for her on the plane and she’ll be able to share a bed with sister. Ahhh, those will be the days (unless we have another kid, that would be scary!).

I’ve been doing quite a bit of shopping, for Christmas. Anthony is a hard one to shop for and I can’t buy games here (region specific) and he’s way behind on books, so that’s out of the question and he buys all the DVD’s he wants when we sees them. So, it was tough – I managed to find a few small things, but not really anything I wanted to get him. Oh well – he’ll just have to suffer. The girls are taken care of, they have plenty of presents from Santa – and Ashley wrote Santa Clause a letter today and sure enough, everything she listed, we had already got her, so Santa will have done a great job this year! I’m going to laminate the letter to Santa – it’s just too cute to lose. Anthony wrote down what she said and then she signed her name. I went for a walk last night trying to find some gifts for Anthony and found a night market about 15-20 minute walk from us – it’s mainly a food market with fish, chicken, vegetables and fruits. But, occasionally there were little shop stands with clothes and trinkets. It was nice walking through by myself, stopping to look at stuff without a stroller or fearing my child was walking away or getting lost.

The weather has been so nice here – although too hot to even feel like Christmas. Shorts and T-shirt weather, although everywhere you look, you’ll see the Taiwanese bundled up like it’s 30 degrees F out, instead of 70 degrees, which is the average right now. Kids are wearing parkas with scarves, hats and mittens – it is so funny.

I must go wrap A’s presents before we finish packing. We have to leave our apartment at 6 am, so we’ll be going to bed early tonight!

I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday, with lots of time spent with family and friends. I know it’s hard sometimes getting together with family, having to spend time with that annoying uncle or bratty niece or boring in laws, just remember that family and friends are important and the holidays are a time to cherish seeing one another, however brief, and showing kindness towards others, even if you don’t really want to. It’s only once a year!

Wishing all of you a wonderful Christmas – we miss each and every one of you!

Thursday, December 16, 2004

Being an Expat is not easy

I am about to admit that this expat experience is stressing me out. I wondered when it would hit – and I’ve often heard that between 4 and 6 months is the hardest. Here it is, 5 months along and it’s hit. I miss home. Yesterday was the first day that I thought to myself “I want to go home”, not to our apartment here, but to our house, our pets, our family, our friends, our stores (if only a TARGET would open here, PLEASE!), our Texas weather, etc, etc. I know this is normal, especially for the expat wife, and I will get through it, but right now, it sucks. I can’t wait for our vacation and can only hope that both girls are good and we have a fun and RELAXING time. I have friends here, but for some reason I feel alone in this HUGE foreign city. I think about friends back home and for the most part, I have no idea what’s going on in their lives. I’ve read that this is another thing we, as expats, go through – losing touch with friends from your home country. I will honestly say that it’s hard. I feel like everyone knows what we are doing, how we are doing, the newest things going on in our lives – because I try to keep everyone up to date on this blog. But then, without actual conversations with people from home and very little email communication, we don’t get the other side, we don’t get to hear how others are doing. Whenever I see an email in my inbox from a friend or a family member from home, I am just so elated and happy – it’s so nice to hear from people back home. And to be honest, when it’s just a stupid email forward or a joke (and I’ve not heard from that person in ages), it’s very disappointing. I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy the email jokes, I do – but I also would like to keep in touch with a person more than that. It was easier before Ashley went to school because I could stay home with the girls in the morning and I could chat with people from home – almost everyday I was able to “hear” from someone back home. But now that we are busy going to playgroups and taking cooking lessons and language lessons, etc, I’m not usually home at the right times for chatting, due to the time differences. It’s been hard, not being in contact as much with friends and family.

We are supposed to come home to visit in January/February and I am contemplating coming home a week earlier than Anthony to have more time to visit with friends and family. I would leave Ashley here in Taiwan with Anthony. This would be the first time I have ever left Ashley for longer than a night. We have to make this decision by tomorrow since tickets have to be ordered and it’s a tough one to make. Spending more time back home versus the separation issues that may (or may not) occur with Ashley, along with traveling that far alone with a toddler. I think it would be good for me, emotionally, but then again, maybe it wouldn’t, maybe I would just be more alone back home without Anthony there, since everyone would be working and going on with their daily lives as usual anyway. What it feels like, when I think about us here and people back home, I think that everything’s changed for us (for instance, how we view things, who we are, how we do things, etc), while nothing has changed for everyone back home. So will that make it harder for visits? Will it be harder to communicate with people or with there be more to talk about because of it?

I usually find it so easy to write things down, but am having trouble – I keep typing then erasing what I type. I want to be able to write down how I’m feeling so others out there can see what this experience is really like, what one person is going through during this interesting journey in a foreign land, but at the same time, I feel I should censure some of my thoughts and feelings so that I don’t upset people back home or upset friends I’ve made here or make family worry more about me than they already are. It’s interesting when you put yourself out there into this huge vastness of computer space, where you know that people who have never met you will read about you along will those who love you and want to know how you are doing. I feel like I think more about what I write than I should.

Other than all this emotional stuff going on, we have been staying very busy this week. I took the girls to a Christmas party yesterday at the Community Services Center. They really had fun seeing Santa – although they were both scared of him and wouldn’t sit in his lap – Ashley sat next to him, and I sat with Liz next to him. Liz has been pretty cranky on and off all week since she’s still getting her teeth in. I think after his round she’ll only have 2 more teeth and she’ll be done. That will be nice! Ashley has been great going to school this week. I’ve taken her out early twice – so she’s liked that. On Tuesday, I took her out and we went over to Playspace to meet with some friends and then yesterday, for the Christmas party. She is going to sleep fine, in Liz’s room, but now she’s waking up every night, coming into our room, complaining that her feet/legs hurt and crying or just wanting to sleep in our room. So, we are going to take her to a doctor to try and figure the leg thing out. It’s becoming a nightly thing and I’m beginning to think there is something truly wrong.
Liz is waking up from her nap, so it’s time for me to sign off

Monday, December 13, 2004

Beautiful Weekend full of Exercise

We had a wonderful weekend. The weather here has been amazingly beautiful – not too chilly, not too hot, sunny and no rain. Saturday morning was too nice to waste, so we decided to go hiking again. We took the same path up Elephant Mountain, but instead of going back down the same way towards XinYi road, we went the other direction and headed down towards YongChan park (I think that’s what it is called). Despite the HUGE 20 minute fit that Ashley threw at the beginning of our hike, the rest of the hike went great. The girls had fun, got lots of attention as usual. We saw some really nice views of the city and our neighborhood since it wasn’t as hazy as it had been on our last hike. There are many, many trails on this particular set of “mountains” and I think it will take months to explore them all. Some venture to other areas of Taipei. There are maps on the trail itself, but since there are so many other little trails veering off of the main trail, it’s hard to tell what goes where. We ended up at the bottom in some temple close to our apartment building. It was strange walking down a set of stairs and suddenly being in a little temple. Oops...

Saturday evening, Anthony and I went out for dinner with another couple (Beth and Ingo). We had a good time and enjoyed the company. It was nice getting out and having some adult conversation for an evening, without talking about the kids the whole time. The girls did great with Frances (the babysitter) and went to bed without a problem.

Sunday was another gorgeous day and we joined another family (Beth, Ingo, Claire and Benjamin) at one of the parks in town, near Neihu by a river. The girls (Claire and Ashley) rode their bikes, ran around and even tried Claire’s “rollerblades”. They had a lot of fun. Liz was really good at walking around, even running at times, up and down little hills, without falling over. She’s gotten very good at balancing herself. We all ate lunch at the American Club, which was good – the kids ate a ton of food and got to run around and play some more after eating. The all were exhausted when we left and both took good naps. Anthony did some Christmas shopping for me while I took a nap with Ashley and then we all went Christmas shopping after naps. We decided to go to AsiaWorld since there is a ToysRUs there – I have gotten Ashley’s presents, but we needed to find Liz some things. We got her a few cute wooden toys (one thing I like about Taiwan toy stores is their selection of basic wooden toys instead of the plastic Fisher Price and Little Tikes). We also went to IKEA, where Ashley got to play in their kid area – which always helps shopping go a little easier for us! We found a shelving unit for our kitchen (since we are running out of space to put anything), a really cute rug for the kids play area in the living room and Liz’s major Christmas present – you’ll have to wait until after Christmas to find out what it is. When we tried to find the shelving unit though, we found out we had to buy it then and come back later (today) and pick it up from the warehouse. Apparently, they don’t keep all items in the store, they keep them in a warehouse next door and you have to buy the item, then come back the next day and pick it up or have it delivered, for a charge. Of course, being that this store is in Taiwan and they don’t communicate in English well, it took about an hour to figure all of this out. And the girls were getting very cranky and tired (it was 9pm by the time we got it all figured out!). We are definitely learning patience while living here, patience in dealing with the locals, patience in dealing with each others frustration in dealing with the locals and patience in dealing with the girls while we are dealing with the locals. Ahhh, so much fun!

All in all though, we had a great weekend and I am looking forward to more kitchen shelving and the kid’s rug! I’ve posted quite a few pics from last week and the weekend – take a look when you get a chance.

Friday, December 10, 2004

I think we are just too busy...

We’ve been so busy. It amazes me how busy we stay! While I was doing dishes this afternoon, I told myself that I really do need to have one day where I stay home all day and get stuff done around the house! Our cleaning lady did not come this week, so our place is beginning to look rather bad. Although I vacuum the floors every other day, they really HAVE to be mopped at least once a week, along with the dusting of everything in the apartment. It’s looking quite bad right now and I’ve been so busy running around, I haven’t had a chance to do it myself.

Thursday we took Ashley to school in the car – Anthony ran her inside while I waited out in the car with Liz. This seems to work well since he was able to just walk her in, say goodbye and leave, whereas I always need to stick around with her and play puzzles and visit with the hamster and read stories for about 15-20 minutes until she’s ready for me to leave. I then drove Anthony to work, dropped him off, and then met with Angie who showed me the way to her house. Her place is about a 10 minute drive from his work, so very convenient after dropping him off. We hung out for a bit, letting the kids play and letting Liz’s clothes and car seat cover dry – she had spilled water ALL OVER herself in the car when I gave her a water bottle to drink from – OOPS. We then ran over to the Costco in XiZhi (different from the usual one in Neihu) and picked up a few items there. I got Ashley a Christmas gift, along with a few snacks and a very cute decorative Santa Claus. I really liked that Costco better than the Neihu one – it’s laid out like the ones back in the States and is only one floor, which makes shopping there a bit easier. It’s only about 5 minutes from Anthony’s work, so we’ll probably start heading there more often than the one in Neihu.

My Chinese lesson is at 12:30 on Thursdays, so I quickly headed back to our apartment, feed Liz and put her down for a nap right when the teacher showed up. My lesson was on asking for Chinese names and introducing oneself. My teacher gave me a Chinese name based on my maiden last name and her “vibe” that she got from me at the first lesson. So, my Chinese name is “Bei” (for Bates, means ocean shell) Ning Xin (this is the first name and means calm joyful). Interesting, I thought. It was a pretty good lesson, although again, I still can’t remember hardly any of it. But I am understanding more when other people talk Chinese, so that’s good.

Liz woke up right after my lesson and refused to go back to sleep again – so she was pretty cranky for the rest of the afternoon. I picked up Ashley from school, brought her back home where we played for awhile and got stuff ready to go to Angie’s house that evening. We went and picked up Anthony from work and headed to Angie’s place for dinner and to decorate her Christmas tree. She thought it would be fun for Ashley and she was right. We ate “hot pot”, which is basically a boiling pot of water that you put a ton of stuff in (tofu, beef, chicken, mushrooms, baby corn, clams, taro, tomatoes, etc) and fish out with your chopsticks and eat. The pot is divided in two, so there is a spicy side and a no spicy side. It was very good and we just kept eating and eating until we were stuffed. I liked the clams the best and the chicken. I didn’t even try the tofu, just can’t get a taste for the stuff, even though it’s in EVERYTHING here. After dinner, we put up the tree and everyone helped decorate. We had a lot of fun, with Ashley probably having the most fun, throwing garland around herself and dancing and singing. Joseph and Liz had fun too, getting into stuff and messing with each other. The girls were exhausted when we left and slept well last night.

Today was our observation time at Ashley’s school along with parent-teacher conference. I also got a late invitation (Thursday afternoon) to a birthday party for one of Ashley’s classmates for Friday afternoon. So, Anthony stayed home in the morning, did a little work while I took Ashley to school. Then midmorning, we both headed up to the school for observation time. This was very interesting. We sat in Ashley’s classroom and just observed the class. For the most part, the kids ignored us and continued doing what they normally would. Ashley said a few words to us and tried to get us to play with her, but she did well continuing to do what she normally would do without us there. While we were in the room, Liz was upstairs in the younger kids room playing with them – she had fun and got soaked from playing in the sink. It was great watching Ashley in the classroom and seeing how the teachers interact with the children in a Montessori type school. Ashley polished silver and glass for a while, then got some big flashcards out and played with them, then started sewing some paper. She didn’t really seem to interact with the other children much, just occasionally she’d talk to them. She did seem to understand some of the instruction the teachers would give in Chinese. After our observation, we had a parent teacher conference and spoke with her teacher about our questions we had written down during the observation period. Ashley is doing well in the class and Ms. Christy said her use of the English language is really good compared to the other kids who also speak English. She said Ashley communicates her needs, thoughts and feelings well in English and they can understand her very well compared to other children. She has no discipline issues and actually goes to take a nap on her own with no prompting by the teachers – sure wish she’d do that at home! It was reassuring to us that Ashley is doing so well at school.

I took Anthony to work after this, then drove to AsiaWorld, which has a ToysRUs in it. I was very proud of myself since I did not use the GPS and managed to make it there without getting lost or making any wrong turns! Liz and I did some shopping for Ashley for Christmas, along with a birthday gift for the little girl’s birthday party. I then ran home, put Liz down for a nap and cleaned up a bit. It was around 3:00 and Ashley had gone with one of the other moms from the school to the birthday party at noon. Their apartment is very close to ours and to school. I woke Liz up early from her nap, then we headed over to join Ashley at the party. It was a fun time, visiting with friends and letting Ashley and Liz have some fun play time with other kids. Some of the other moms complimented me on having such well behaved and polite children. I really do think I have somehow lucked out on having great children. Even with all the temper tantrums Ashley throws when I’m around, she’s a wonderful child when I’m not around or in group settings and I am still very proud of her. She is such a girlie girl too. For some reason, I always had assumed Ashley would be a tomboy, but she’s definitely not. She didn’t really play much with the other kids at the party, she just found other things to keep her occupied – baby dolls, play makeup bags, play hair combs, etc. While the other kids were running around the apartment chasing each other, Ashley was quietly brushing her hair or “putting on lipstick”. We went home around 5pm. I was exhausted once we got home, so I put a movie on for Ashley, then tried to keep Liz happy until Anthony got home, around 6:30! Liz went to bed at 7:00 – she was so tired. And Ashley went to bed shortly thereafter. She was sitting at the dinner table, and I asked if she was tired and she said yes, I’m going to bed. She put her pj’s on and said goodnight and went into Liz’s room and went to sleep. It was too cute. Anthony was upset she didn’t want him to put her to bed, so he went and tucked her in good night. Thank goodness she’s gotten past the fighting bed every night – it’s so much nicer!

The Taiwan government elections are tomorrow – it’s been interesting here, with trucks driving around town shouting words in Chinese – political ads. There are also banners everywhere displaying the picture and voting number for the politicians here. It’s supposed to be a pretty crazy ordeal here and some of the foreign committees have advised foreigners to be cautious over the weekend due to demonstrations and political fights that can sometimes occur. Should be interesting!

Wednesday, December 08, 2004

It's just life

Tuesday was my first day of Chinese language lessons, or at least my first one here in Taiwan. I had taken a few weeks of language back home in May and June of this year. I am so thankful I did because I wouldn’t even understand what they were trying to teach me at this first lesson, which is supposedly beginning Chinese. If I didn’t have a basis from my lessons in Texas, I would be completely lost, as it is, I’m just a little lost. The first lesson was how to say I am from America and how to ask what country someone is from. I have a VERY hard time remembering the language and words used, but I’ll learn eventually. I have the same teacher as Anthony, she goes to his work 2x a week and comes here to the apartment on Tuesdays and Thursdays for me. I have to remind her to not compare the two of us because he is SO much better at foreign language than I am. He’s truly very good, he gets many compliments by his teacher and by his coworkers.

After I picked Ashley up from school yesterday, we walked over to Taipei 101 and had some ice cream at McDonalds – for only 10NT, you can get an ice cream cone there! She’s just been so good this week; I thought she deserved a little treat. We also went to Jason’s and did some grocery shopping. Anthony picked us up in the car on his way home from work, so we didn’t have to get a cab. Once we got home, I made garlic shrimp and fried ice – they were both pretty good. The fried rice was a bit greasy – the cooking instructor doesn’t give us measuring units for cooking in recipes, just the ingredients, so we kind of have to play around until we get it right. The girls liked both of the dishes a lot though and the shrimp was so easy to make!

The Dallas Cowboys played on Monday football – which means it aired LIVE here Tuesday morning, but because of my language class and I had gone to Playspace in the morning with Angie, I missed the game, which is good, since then I didn’t know the score and wouldn’t give away the ending to Anthony. We ended up watching it last night – they usually replay the game again later in the day. We got to watch the whole game and it was a GOOD one. Anthony even made nachos during half time and they were yummy! We stayed up until the end of the game, which is really good, since Dallas ended up winning right at the very end. Great game! Go Cowboys!

Ashley has decided that she enjoys sleeping in Liz’s room – so they pretty much share a room now – no fighting her to go to sleep – she walks right in, lays down and closes her eyes. I think she likes being close to her sister. I thought that our kids would always have their own rooms, but looks like they may be sharing one at some point. Too bad our landlord won’t store some of the furniture here – they have really cute bunkbed sets here that would be great for them in about 6 months when Liz is ready for a real bed. Knowing them, they’ll probably just end up sleeping in the big bed together. Of course, this is all on the assumption that in a few months they still like each other!

Today was good – it was playgroup day, so I got the car – I took Anthony to work and then came home for a few minutes. After getting everything ready, I headed off for the Taipei Transportation Museum, which is pretty far away from our apartment. Luckily, Anthony was able to program it in again on the GPS, so I had directions on how to get there. I only took one wrong turn and made it there fairly quickly – of course, a screaming child in the background helped in the quickness factor. Liz wasn’t too happy to be riding in the car and was tired but wouldn’t fall asleep. After I took the one wrong turn, these scooter guys came roaring past me, definitely speeding. After a block though, they wiped out on the road – thank goodness no one was around them, just two of the speeders wiped out together. They didn’t seem too injured and as means as it sounds, they deserved what they got! Guess that’s the way it goes sometimes.

Liz and I had fun at playgroup. She ran around playing in the ball pit, down the slides, in the little cars, in the playhouses, etc. We even sat in this little “earthquake” room that shook as if an earthquake was happening. All I can say after that is that I hope to God that I never experience a REAL 7.0 earthquake! Angie and I walked over to Grandma Nittis for lunch since it is in the same neighborhood as the Transportation Museum. The kids were good, ate a bunch and were very tired on the way back to the cars. Joseph was asleep by the time we got back and Liz was asleep as soon as she was in the carseat.

Anthony had a business dinner tonight, so I took the girls to the Living Mall, where they played at the indoor play area and shopped a little with me. We had a lot of fun and it made me miss the days when I used to do stuff with both of the girls during the day. I am so glad that Ashley is in school, but I still miss her. This was the first night/evening that I’d been out with the girls alone without Anthony and with no real agenda, except for them to have fun and they did. It made me feel so good, having a relaxing time with them and having the freedom to hop in the car and drive home, without having to lug everything into a taxi and fight Liz to sit down, etc. Having a vehicle has really helped me feel better about living here.

We have been confirmed for our trip to Phuket, Thailand from December 20th – 25th. I am really looking forward to it! We’ll be in close quarters – one room for all of us – but it’s at a beautiful looking hotel, from the pictures anyway, with a kiddie pool, complete with slide and a kid’s playground and a secluded beach. I’m sure it will be jam packed with people, but that’s the way it goes. It’s supposed to be absolutely beautiful with excellent snorkeling and nice beaches. I hope so! If you want to check it out, here are some links:
http://www.phuket.com/island/beaches.htm
http://www.phuket.net/photo_gallery.htm
http://www.phuket-photos.com
http://www.phuket-photos.com/frameme.php?page=merlin-beach.htm (Merlin Beach resort, where we are staying!)

Monday, December 06, 2004

Oh Christmas Tree, Oh Christmas Tree

And its Monday again…time just flies by. I am getting older very fast. The weekend was a good one. Went by too fast, that’s for sure. I don’t even remember what we did Friday night. It was raining, typhoon was headed our way. I picked up Ashley and we walked back in the rain. She really enjoyed it – had fun splashing through the puddles and singing in the rain.

Saturday morning, we had one of Ashley’s friends, Claire, over to play. The girls had a lot of fun playing and Ashley really enjoyed having someone over to play with. They were so cute together, playing PlayDoh, eating lunch and talking. I’d ask one of them about school – who’s your favorite teacher, what’s your favorite activity – and of course, they both had the SAME answers everytime. Too cute!

Saturday afternoon, I had a ‘Scrapbooking Class’ (yes, Faith, they have Creative Memories over here!). Hopefully, this will inspire me enough to finish working on Ashley’s babybook, which is still in the beginning stages (and she’s 3.5 years old!). There was a woman from the parentpages playgroup network that was having a scrapbooking class and I signed up to go. She also sells scrapbook supplies from Creative Memories (yes, in Chinese) so I figured I could buy some supplies I needed to. It was at her house and Anthony told me how to say it along with writing it out in Chinese for the cab driver. Lucky for me, he knows how to write some things since the taxi driver didn’t understand the address I told him. But with Anthony’s written address, he took me straight there. I had a good time, all of the women there, besides me and Dorota (the woman giving the class), were Taiwanese and spoke very little English. It was interesting and fun. Anthony then came and picked me up from their house and we went over to Toys R Us, which is in their neighborhood. We shopped around, letting Ashley show us what she wants “Santa” to bring her. We also found a really cheap fake Christmas tree and some ornaments and lights. We picked up a little baby doll stroller for Liz, which she absolutely LOVES. She keeps pushing it around all over the apartment and gets upset if Ashley plays with it. Too funny!

After we got home, we set up the tree and decorated it. We had a lot of fun and it’s nice to have a little bit of Christmas in the apartment. It’s strange though – whenever I walk into the living room, I’m surprised at the Christmas tree there – like it’s out of place, not supposed to be there. It’s just so warm here and there isn’t a lot of the “Christmas spirit” that you see everywhere back home. I’m missing all our Christmas decorations and all the ornaments that we’ve collected as a family – it’s always been a tradition to get ornaments every year and now we don’t have them, it is sad. We had thought that we would be home for Christmas when we packed all our stuff up, so we left it all in our garage back home and now we wish we had shipped some of it. Our Christmas stockings and some ornaments mainly. Oh well, guess I’ll scour the city of Taipei and see what I can find from here!

Sunday, we didn’t do a whole lot. In fact, I can’t even remember what we did in the morning/early afternoon. I know we drove out later in the day, we went over to the Taiwan Handicraft Mart, to pick up some gifts for family back home and then after that, we went to a place called “Grandma Nittis” which I’ve read about on others blogs and seen on one of the tourist maps. They have a lot of “western” style food – burgers, sandwiches, Mexican food, breakfast, brunch, etc. It was pretty good and Liz loved being it because there was a resident dog and cat. Now, I know that would be illegal in the States – having animals in your restaurant, but here, in Taiwan, it’s quite a common occurrence – at least these two looked well taken care of and weren’t street animals hoping to find a meal. The food was pretty good, not exactly like back home, but close enough. They also have a little book area and games to play. There were quite a few foreigners in the restaurant, it seems a popular hang out for the teaching community here.

Today, I had my Chinese cooking class with Angie (http://kitchen.j321.com/cooking-class.htm) at Jodie’s kitchen. We learned a few REALLY simple dishes. One which I will try this week is garlic shrimp. The kids were with us, so as usual, lots of interrupting during the lesson, but it’s a good way to learn about the different vegetables and produce here.

Liz didn’t really take a nap today, just a short one in the morning, she was pretty cranky the rest of the day and kept crying every time I laid her down. It looks like she’s getting 6 teeth in right now – 4 on top and 2 on the bottom – so I’m sure that’s not helping her mood. Ashley was great going to school and had a good time today at school. Tomorrow is her outing day and they are going to DaAn park, so hopefully, she’ll be happy to go to school tomorrow too!

Friday, December 03, 2004

And the days drive by

Ok, let me just say…I LOVE having a car here. I know the traffic is horrible and parking is bad – especially if you aren’t really good at parrellel parking in TINY spots or backing into spots (no one pulls into spots here!), but it’s such a freedom to have a vehicle. I didn’t realize how much I missed it until we got a car. Just two days ago I said we wouldn’t be driving at night for awhile and what did we do last night? We drove to Costco.

Yesterday, I drove Ashley to school and then took Anthony to work. Then I drove all the way up to TienMu, which is FAR away. It took me an hour and a half. I was visiting a friend that moved up there from downtown Taipei. She said I was very brave for driving all the way there my first time. I was quite nervous on the way to Anthony’s work, but after my trip to TienMu, I’ve gotten over the nervousness. It can actually be fun driving here, lots of dodging of people, taxis, buses and scooters. It is definitely interesting! I am SO, SO, SO thankful that Stephanie was able to get us the GPS unit in the car. The map itself is in Chinese and so are the instructions, but with some help from a coworker of Anthony’s, we have home and AMD programmed into the GPS unit. I know how to turn it on and show me how to get home. It is THE COOLEST thing ever. I don’t normally get all excited about electronic gadgets, but this is pretty neat and I would be completely lost without it. Anthony managed to figure out how to program the TienMu destination in yesterday and without it, I would have been lost for hours in the backstreets of Taiwan. And I was able to get home in around 30 mintues, which is fast from TienMu to where we live. I picked Ashley up from school, then Anthony from work and we went to Costco after having the same coworker program it into the GPS Unit. Eventually we hope to have most of the places we visit saved so we can get around. Anthony thinks it’s cool that it’s in Chinese since he’s trying to learn the characters and this will help. I only know the characters for Taipei City and for Exit (very important in parking lots). It was wonderful going to Costco knowing that we’d have room to put stuff in the car and we could drop it all off at the elevator instead of the sidewalk.

Today, after walking Ashley to school, Liz and I went to Gymboree with Angie. There is one near her home in Neihu. Liz had a lot of fun. It’s set up the same as in the US, same posters, same slides, balls, ladders, tunnels, Gymbo – just with Chinese writing. Liz really enjoyed climbing on everything. It’s seems pretty expensive to me - $13104 NT ($436 US) for 28 classes – so I don’t know if we’ll join or not. I don’t remember what we paid back home.
Ashley did great going to school this morning, of course because it’s Friday and she doesn’t have to go to school tomorrow. She’ll probably be upset again on Monday, but hopefully we’ll get to spend enough time with her this weekend, that she’ll be ok with it.

We are desperately trying to book a vacation for Christmas time. You can’t just look online and book airline tickets yourself – maybe if you read Chinese, but not if you only read English. Chinese like to travel in groups and last minute, so it’s all done through travel agencies, but it’s hard to find agencies that will work with you and be reliable and thorough and get you good deals. We’re thinking of going to Thailand, Phuket – which is a beach area or to Singapore or Hong Kong. I’m waiting on prices from the travel agent now and hopefully we can have a trip booked by Monday. It will be nice to get out of here for a few days. We are anticipating Christmas as being really hard for us, the first Christmas away from home. I’m already missing the lights and decorations and trees and family/friend get togethers. We picked up some Christmas things yesterday at Costco, but it’s just not the same.

Wednesday, December 01, 2004

A Car, A Car

I can’t believe its December already! Time just flies by so fast. We haven’t really done much of interest lately. On Monday, Ashley woke up coughing and said her throat hurt – so she stayed home with me all day. After her nap, she was fine and wasn’t coughing anymore – nor was she even acting in the least bit sick. It was a long day with both girls, but we managed. I don’t even remember most of the day or what we even did that evening – that’s what happens when you have children – they zap your memory.

Tuesday was a good day. Ashley went to school, not too happily, she was crying when I was leaving. Miss Christy said she stopped after about two minutes, not long at all. During Liz’s nap, I had an interview with a Chinese Language School to see where I’m at with the language for learning. The director of this school is very nice and she had great things to say about Anthony’s Chinese speaking ability – she said he’s wonderful and speaks very well. I told her not to expect that from me – I definitely don’t have the natural ability he does to pick up a language. It will be good to start taking lessons again; I’ll be having two lessons a week starting next week, with the instructor coming to the house during Liz’s nap. After school, we walked over to a small mall near us, New York New York 2, and did a little shopping. They have a GEANT store, which is similar to a Target or Walmart (except for the prices) and I thought they might have some Christmas decorations – no such luck. We haven’t done any Christmas decorating yet since we didn’t ship any of our Christmas stuff and it’s not too easy to find here. I did get three shirts for the girls on the kid’s floor of the mall though – 3 for $500 NT – that’s dirt cheap here. We stopped at bakery to get some bread and Ashley was hungry so I got her a sausage wrap – fresh from the oven – both girls LOVED it. Bakeries sell many different types of bread here – with lots of strange things in them. Usually they don’t like anything I buy, except plain bread, but they liked this.

When Anthony got home, we headed off to National Taiwan University to see if we could buy tickets to a futsal game for today. We made it there, although at the opposite end of the campus from where the arena is. So we walked through the university campus to get there. We walked through the sports area, with basketball courts, volleyball courts, tennis courts, rock climbing wall, swings, etc. It was packed with people. We found the sports arena where the futsal championships are being held, but they don’t sell tickets there until right before the game, which is tonight, Wednesday. So we jumped back in a cab and went to Chili’s for dinner. MMMM…

Today was playgroup day. I took Ashley to school this morning and it was a bit hectic. If we had lots of days like today, I would swear off ever having any more children. Ashley was just whiny, crying, upset, not moving, pouty, etc. Anthony stayed home late to help me get her to school. She kept saying she didn’t want to go, she wanted to stay home all day with me. I was not handling it very well, debating what to do. If we take her out of school, I don’t think it would be good for her or for me. She needs to have a structured environment with other kids her age. If we do ½ days, then I spend the afternoon fighting with her over lunch and taking a nap and we both end up miserable and tired. So, we just have to keep trying – see if we can make it fun for her to go to school. Once we got her there though, she was fine. As soon as she saw the street her school is on, she got excited and pointed out her school and ran there. Once inside, she showed me the hamster and we did puzzles together. She kept telling me not to leave – so I hung around and told her to tell me when she was ready. She went off and started doing her own thing, so I went over to her and said “hey, you forgot to say goodbye” and she looked up, gave me hug and kiss and said goodbye. That was easy. Too bad getting her there wasn’t as simple. I’m reading a book right now called “Playful Parenting” – which I highly recommend. It’s a great book about how to play with your kids, which may seem easy and natural for some (like Anthony), but not to easy or natural for me. I have a hard time playing with Ashley, and I feel like I’m always telling her what to do or what not to do. I haven’t finished it yet, but it’s given me some good ideas for being with her and to make things into games, especially if she’s being difficult. So I need to come up with some way to make going to school into a game.

Angie saw me walking home from school, she said I didn’t look happy and looked like I was mumbling to myself – I probably was, talking to myself about dealing with Ashley. She came over and we hung out for a little while and then went to playgroup at DaAn park. It’s a nice park with a sand pit – although the sand pit isn’t really refined sand, it has some pretty large chunks of rock in it, so Liz didn’t like the feel of it. There’s a kids area, but the actual playground equipment is for much older kids and Liz is so adventurous I was constantly trying to prevent her form injuring herself. Didn’t get to chat too much with the other moms, but it was nice getting out anyway.

We got our car today. I’ll take some pictures when I get a chance and post them. They delivered it to Anthony at work, so he’s driving it home this evening – he’ll be leaving early so he will miss rush hour and so it will be light out. We won’t be driving at night until we get used to driving during the day. I’m very excited to have a vehicle now!

I’ve posted a lot of new pictures on the pictures website – some of our weekend hike and the field trip Ashley’s school went out – check them out when you can.

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